Monthly Archives: November 2011

5 Happiness Boosters That Do More Harm Than Good

Today’s Guest Blogger is the brilliant Gretchen Rubin. Her book The Happiness Project is her memoir of the year she spent test-driving different methods and ideas for how to be happier. Along the way, she found that some attempts to make ourselves happier can actually do more harm than good. Take five and see if these bring you happiness or just make your anger or sadness last longer.

Everyone has a few tricks for beating the blues – things you do when you’re feeling down to try to boost your mood. It turns out, however, that several of the most popular strategies don’t actually work very well in the long term.

Beware if you are tempted to try any of the following:

1. Comforting yourself with a “treat.” Often, the things we choose as “treats” aren’t good for us. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the lousiness of the day. So when you find yourself thinking, “I’ll feel better after I have a few beers…a pint of ice cream…a cigarette…a new pair of jeans,” ask yourself – will it REALLY make you feel better? It might make you feel worse. In particular, beware of…

2. Letting yourself off the hook. I’ve found that I sometimes get a real happiness boost from giving something up, quitting something, or breaking a bad habit. For example, I feel very happy about having given up fake food. When you’re feeling down, you might be tempted to let yourself off the hook, to think, “I’ll allow myself to skip my run today, I need a break.” In fact, sticking to a resolution will boost your sense of self-esteem and self-control. So NOT letting yourself off the hook might do more to boost your happiness.

3. Turning off your phone. Studies show that extroverts and introverts alike get a mood boost from connecting with other people. Although it can be tempting to isolate yourself when you’re feeling unhappy, you’re better off making plans with friends or family.

4. Expressing your negative emotions. Many people believe in the “catharsis hypothesis” and think that expressing anger is healthy-minded and relieves their feelings. Not so. Studies show that expressing anger only aggravates it; as Plutarch observed, “Anger, while in its beginning, often can be ended by silence, or neglect.” I’ve certainly found this to be true; once I get going, I can whip myself into a fury. It’s better to stay calm.

5. Staying in your pajamas all day. One of the most helpful things I’ve learned in my happiness research is that although we think that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act. As improbable as this sounds, it really works. Sometimes it can be fun to hang out in your sweats all day, but if you’re feeling lethargic, powerless, or directionless, not getting dressed is going to make you feel worse. Put on your clothes—including your shoes—so you feel prepared for whatever the day might offer. While you’re at it, make your bed.

Have you ever tried to cheer yourself up using a strategy that just made you feel worse in the end?  What are your effective ways to beat the blues?

Paula Gregorowicz: Reflections of a Brilliance-Based Businesswoman

I love featuring shining examples of Brilliance-Based Businesswomen and the stories behind their careers.  This Thanksgiving, I am especially grateful for those I consider my dear friends.  Enjoy these reflections by Paula Gregorowicz on how she became the Intuitive Intelligence Coach.

 Briefly, what are the highlights of your career story?

I spent over 17 years working in corporate in a variety of disciplines.  Yet since day one I just knew that  it wasn’t the right fit.  Like many people I thought there had to be something wrong with me.  So I changed career fields a few times (from auditing and accounting/finance to information technology to web development) and yet something was still definitely missing.  It wasn’t until I started doing my own personal growth work that I started to uncover the fundamental truth that there wasn’t anything “wrong” with me…simply that I wasn’t in the best place for me to do the work I am meant to do.  It took some deep work such as shadow work and training under bestselling author Debbie Ford and stepping up to receive support from my own coaches and mentors that empowered me to see myself in a whole new way and light a path forward for me.  I never would have been willing to consider, let alone make, the leap from corporate to business owner without the foundational personal work that I did (and continue to do).

As best as you currently understand it, what are you here to do?  Who are you here to serve?  What difference do you make for your clients?

I believe I am here to make alchemy possible. What that means is I am a catalyst and support for people living their best life by discovering and successfully creating the work they are most meant to do in the world.  I am here to help them break free of the struggle of trying to make the “right” decision and to breakthrough all the limitations and “shoulds” that keep them stuck … stuck in jobs that don’t fit, in businesses that don’t serve them, or in a life not fully lived.

Those that I serve are typically:

  • women who find themselves in a job they hate (or in a job that they used to love but no longer jazzes them up) and want to do something new, whether that is a career change or starting a business;
  • women who are starting up their business and attempting to navigate a whole new world of needed skills and confidence (from being an employee); or
  • women who have been in their business for a while (as owner or employee) and simply feel like something is missing and it’s time to reinvent.

My clients consistently tell me that the biggest difference Intuitive Intelligence™ makes in their life is that it helps them see themselves and their situations in a whole new light.  With more clarity about who they are and what they REALLY want they are able to give themselves permission to make wiser decisions about their personal and professional lives.  Making these decisions with ease and without all the guilt means they experience more prosperity, are able to create and capitalize on new opportunities, and frankly get to rejoice in the journey along the way.

How do you define “success” for yourself?

Success for me is all about having an impact in a way that I feel great about…using my experiences, talents, and humor in a way that inspires others to do the things that inspire them.  There are so many things I love to do that variety, flexibility, and freedom are an important component of my business and life and crucial for me to feel successful. 

What changes have you made or experienced in your life and business that have enabled you to experience more ease?

The biggest component has been learning how to give myself permission.  You can really fill in the blank with lots of things (As in, I give myself permission to _____.) Especially when you own your own business like I do, there isn’t anyone there to tell you “you can’t”.  Well, maybe there are people telling you that, but you don’t have to listen!  So often I’ve found that it has been me and me alone creating any dis-ease in my life and business. 

I’ve also brought on team members to help me in my business.  As a recovering control freak this was a big and necessary step. What I’ve learned is that there are some things they do SO much better than me and it is a win-win-win (for me, them, AND my clients!)

What would you love your next breakthrough to be?

I would love my next breakthrough to be for the Intuitive Intelligence™ work that I created to reach more women…women who really want to make the most of their one precious life…personally and professionally.  I would love to take this work with the right group of people to more experiential and adventure-based learning (partnering with some awesome colleagues of mine to do so!)… so women start banishing the words “should”, “I can’t” and “maybe someday” from their vocabulary and start living in a way that makes them come alive and as a result have a bigger impact on the world in all they do.

What brings you joy?

Being in nature – I love to hike, kayak, cycle and travel to great places.  There is nothing quite like being in magnificent beauty whether near my home or in a totally awesome place (like the national parks). When I have my camera by my side and can share it all with my partner of almost 20 years…that is total joy!  I’m also a huge animal lover, so my cat and other critters bring me joy and humor!

As a successful Brilliance-Based Businesswoman, what’s the best piece of advice you have for other aspiring and active Brilliance-Based Businesswomen out there?

Do the things you think you cannot do.  There is no such thing as a “final” or “right” decision… so don’t get stuck in indecision or analysis paralysis.  Sure you want to do your due diligence, but usually it is our fear, not our lack of information, that keeps us stuck.  Start today and live fully because tomorrow is promised to no one!

What’s the best way for others to learn more about what you do?  

The best way for folks to stay connected with me is through my website and blog located at http://www.thepaulagcompany.com.  There you’ll find the free “Your Own Uniqueness: The Path to Purpose, Prosperity, and Playfulness” report – a powerful and in-depth exploration of how you can turn to the quiet wisdom inside to create more clarity on the work you’re most meant to do in the world and experience more success on your own terms. This report shows you why a mindful approach based on your personal experience and a deeper knowing is the most important success factor for success in today’s changing business climate.

Folks may also want to check out the inspired collection of experts I am bringing together in The 12 Days of Intuitive Intelligence™ starting December 1st.  Check out all the details at http://intuitiveintelligencecoaching.com/summit.

Brilliance-Based Blog Panel: Technology Tools to Enhance Your Personal and Business Productivity

Today we present Topic #3 of the Brilliance-Based Blog Panel series.  Four of my favorite Brilliance-Based Businesswomen come monthly to share their perspectives on topics near and dear to the hearts and minds of women entrepreneurs.  I welcome you to add to the dialogue by commenting below on today’s topic.

As Brilliance-Based Businesswomen, what technology tools do you recommend to enhance your personal and business productivity? We asked the connect2 Brilliance-Based Blog Panel to respond: 


Stefanie Frank – Initiative Based Writing

The tool that enhances my productivity the most is the timer on my Android phone.

When I sit down to write and strategize for clients and for my own business, something nearly always comes up to try and block the creativity. Resistance, Writers Block, Distraction, Procrastination . . . you’ve likely been there yourself.

Rather than fight this (as I did for years writing as a lawyer and during the first years after founding Initiative Based Writing™), I now manage it by setting the timer.

The moment I set the timer, I’m free. Free to create whatever draft at whatever stage it’s in without judgment, distraction or worry. Free from the phone, email, Facebook, Skype, and texting (all great tools by the way).

The “container” that the timer creates helps me focus. Opens me up to create. Frees me from distraction. The container the timer creates is simple.

Another tool I just discovered is the Omm Writer Dana, a no cost downloadable tool designed to free writers from distraction. On first use, I love it! It’s very, very simple. http://www.ommwriter.com/

Simple is often best when it comes to technology, productivity, and creativity.


Jennifer Urezzio – Know Soul’s Language

There are so many technology tools that help me both on a personal and business level.  My co-panelists will name a few but I feel I want to focus on stepping away from technology.

Often we can utilize all these wonderful inventions to sabotage ourselves and to avoid being still.  Take time to pause and have a conversation with your Soul.  This is the real key to creating successful personal and business lives. 

 So take a moment and check in to determine if you are using your technology to keep you separate from the world. If you received a yes, set some time aside just to be with you.  After you have enjoyed your own company, go out and enjoy someone else’s.  Arrange to connect in person and set the intention to be present.  When we connect on a deep level, magic happens in our lives.  


Christine Silvey – Empowered You

Thank goodness for technology tools…that’s all I’ve gotta say!

But for a tool to be fully embraced by me it has to stick to my guideline of helping me simplify my life and keep it flowing with grace and ease.  Here are a few of my favorites:

  • Google Calendar – love it! I have multiple calendars I need to manage and this helps me keep them organized, visible and easy to read with color identification for each calendar.
  • EchoSign – another great tool to easily facilitate document signatures between clients and me.
  • Dropbox – great for file sharing between office staff and easy access of files while on the road.
  • Skype – love it! My practice has easily gone international because of this little gem.
  • Tungle.me – Makes scheduling with multiple participants easy breezy.

Bryn Johnson – Bryn Johnson Consulting

I sit here in my office and I look around. There’s a Macbook- my lifeline. There’s an iPhone – so I can talk, text and email while also making reservations and talking on social media all from the line at Starbucks.

Inside each of these machines are applications that allow me to be more efficient. Here’s just a few:

37 Signals as the project management and company infrastructure site used by myself and team. It makes business operations so grand!

Hootsuite to manage my social media throughout the week so I can deliver on my promises to colleagues and collaborators when I say I will promote for them. It allows me to schedule tweets most especially while tweeting live and in real time on the other things going on in my life and business.

Kicklite is the NYC Subway map I can access underground to reroute my trip in a moment’s notice when there is a delay. Saves me so much time.

Zipcar is my answer to a quick business or personal trip. Leasing these cars by the hour straight out of a local garage allows me to get to client presentations, speaking gigs, shopping and vet trips with no hassle. And I can reserve and extend a reservation right from my iPhone.


How are your technology systems supporting your productivity?  High operational efficiency can enable you to increase your joy and ease on a day-to-day basis, at work and at home. If this post has resonated with you, today’s the day for you to take one important step toward living with more joy, ease and prosperity. To find out more about how you can propel your growth by up leveling your operations, visit BBBSalon.com or email us to arrange a brief one-on-one chat. 


Stefanie Frank is an entrepreneur and triathlete who lives, works and trains in southern Nevada, USA.  She supports entrepreneurs and small business owners to write clear, influential, inspiring marketing that not only gets bottom line results but is aligned with each client’s big vision of why she’s in business.  Stef writes awesome content for private clients and has created an affordable high level “do it yourself” writing and content marketing program for creative, forward thinking entrepreneurs who believe in the power of great writing to help effect change in the world.  Visit Stef at http://initiativebasedwriting.com.


Jennifer Urezzio is the spiritual director and founder of Know Soul’s Language – away to create a conscious connection with your Soul.  She guides leaders and healers to create a more conscious deeper relationship with themselves and the Divine.  Download Jennifer’s free report 5 Days to a More Powerful Life with Soul Language at http://www.knowsoulslanguage.net/?page_id=1360.

 


Christine Silvey is a highly sought-after Master Coach, Transformation Leader, Spiritual Mentor, Healer, Speaker, Trainer and forthcoming author with specialties in evolving consciousness, leadership and communication effectiveness, business building mastery, and transcending psycho-emotional-energetic dynamics.

For over 10 years, Christine has guided men and women from around the globe to GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO YOUR LIFE™. Through her highly effective coaching programs, Christine can guide YOU to transcend the Thinking Mind and open to a New Way of Being in the world.  To learn more about Christine, and how she can assist you with deep change ~ profound results™, visit http://www.empoweredyou.com.scending psycho-emotional-energetic dynamics.


Bryn Johnson spent 20 years in Corporate America as a passionate leader of high-performing teams and endless multi-million dollar projects.  ONE of her many secrets for success?  Her ability to take complicated, often impossibly overwhelming information, and to quickly make it simple and fun.  She is now bringing that same passion for planning and collaboration, along with her laser-focused implementation strategies, to her clients and broader online community.  Visit Bryn at http://www.brynjohnson.com.


Anna Twinney: Reflections of a Brilliance-Based Businesswoman

In August I had the amazing experience of learning with Anna Twinney and her partner Vin Mancarella.  With her well-chosen words, strategic silence and thoughtful actions, she made such a powerful impact on me that I had to bring her to you.  Anna was gracious enough to share her Brilliance-Based career story with me in a private interview a few weeks ago.

Briefly, what are the highlights of your career story?

I was born in England, grew up in Germany, and returned to England when I was 16. At the age of 17, I went to London as an assistant compliance officer for an investment bank and earned more than I had in my whole career. We received quarterly and annual bonuses, and one employee threw his computer out a fifth story window because he thought his quarter-of-a-million pound bonus was not enough. It impacted me so much that I decided this wasn’t the industry I want to be working in.

I ended up volunteering with the police force. Ultimately, my ex-husband Nick and I were the first married couple to join the police force in the United Kingdom.  It was really nice to be that little piece of history.  I stayed with the police force for six years, performing many jobs, from the control room to training. In those days, the British police force was one of the best in the world.  I say in those days because we were communicating.  There were no guns and there were no weapons.  All you had were your communication skills.

I took a year sabbatical to bring horse whispering to the police force to create a better bedside manner.  My horse Carrie was one of the reasons. She was quite delicate to work with and required an amazing horsewoman, and that wasn’t quite me at the time. She was the drive for me to look at natural horsemanship. 

I went to Monty Roberts and his learning center in the U.K.  I was one of two people, out of a 20-person class, to be chosen to go to Flag Is Up Farms in California to study.  For that period, I became a groom.  It was absolutely wonderful.  I was starting racehorses on the saddle, riding them, exercise riding, starting quarter horses on the saddle, and rehabilitation with an aqua tread.  I was the groom holding for the vet and holding for the chiropractor, getting the yearlings ready for the sales, gentling untouched horses.  It was just a magnificent place to be. 

Ultimately, the police force wanted to know if I was returning. I literally thought, “Do I want to return to gray England where it’s raining and I get abused physically, mentally, emotionally, or do I want to stay here with the horses and follow a dream?”  I knew my answer immediately.

With that choice came quite a price to pay, actually. The marriage came to an end, a marriage that was working fairly well.  I’d love to say really well, but if it was really well, it would have still worked.  He gave his blessing and said, “I can’t compete with a country. This is where your heart is.  You need to fulfill your dreams.” As easy as it sounds, it wasn’t. 

I returned to Flag Is Up Farms.  At that point, I gave up everything.  I gave up my horse, dog, husband, house, and family. What I now had was a suitcase. I lived out of a suitcase for about eight years, which meant that I didn’t really invest in anything else. Though I had a room, and then rented a house, I didn’t have more to my name than I could carry in a suitcase. 

One of the first highlights is to have been the head instructor for Monty Roberts. Monty Roberts asked me to start up a school for him. Those were the challenges, the joys of learning to be a horse whisperer.  It’s that huge thing of having a career in horse whispering and making it work, and ultimately becoming the head instructor of a very well-known horse whisperer, and being entrusted to run his farm. 

I did end up staying probably a year or two longer than my intuition had told me, meaning my intuition told me time is coming to an end but you do need to stay here. I ended up going to work for a mustang sanctuary.  It was really, really special because I’d taught for years.  I’d been at Flag Is Up on and off for six years. I left there to be with the horses, to literally say, “I need a break from the people I’ve been serving since I was 17.” 

I just want to really get to know these horses and the intimacy, the language of equus, which the mustangs can give you.  It’s the whisper.  It’s that connection.  It’s that next level.  I worked there for two years. It’s a huge highlight because not everybody can work with mustangs. It’s such a specialist area.  These are wild horses, untouched horses.  You’ve got to really finesse what you’re doing. 

What I discovered over the years is the language of the horse was far beyond body language.  There are two other pieces to it. One is the energetic connection and one is the telepathic communication.  

For me, the horse’s language are these three areas.  We can study energy.  I studied Reiki to the Reiki master level.  I’ve studied animal communication and I’m a successful animal communicator.  While I was at the Wild Horse Sanctuary, not only could I really get to the depth of this language, but I could actually finesse my ability to communicate through the energetic connection and really begin to hone in on the skills of telepathy. 

I worked part-time at the Wild Horse Sanctuary and listened to my intuition telling me to start my own business. I wanted to work with horses full time and take care of 200 head of horses, then manage a facility for volunteers with an educational and training program. I teamed up with Crawford Hall.  Crawford had been Monty Roberts’ head person, farm manager and the dean at the school for 28 years.  

We established a business called Crawford Hall’s Equine Connection.  Crawford Hall then employed me as a specialist.  I was part of that company and it was my company.  Crawford is a paraplegic.  We were a great team.  He was really the man behind it, but at the same time, I was the one working the horses and traveling.  It allowed me to start my business with a great mentor. 

The first year I had six clinics which was an amazing beginning and allowed me to really build my business. I left 20 months later and Vin and I decided to live together in Colorado. I loved California and he loved Manhattan, so this was our compromise. 

Moving to Colorado, I thought I had to start creating a new client base. The joy of the business was already that my clients were all over the United States, Canada, Europe, and even New Zealand and Australia.  I found where I lived wasn’t that important.  My business could be picked up and taken anywhere in the world because the clinics weren’t locally based. 

Clinics became the area of my focus.  That had been part of my dream.  My dream originally was to run the facility at Monty’s.  I ran it and created all the classes and clinics that they run today. 

I look back and say, “There’s a huge highlight of my career,” from bobby to horse whisperer to head instructor to developing clinics.  The next move is to specialize in the language of the horse.  There’s nobody else doing this.  Nobody is communicating with telepathic means, body language and energy.  There are many healers out there, there are many animal communicators, and there are great clinicians, but nobody has combined the three, which is the authenticity of the language of the horse.  There’s another huge highlight.

My third highlight was to create the clinics around the globe so that I could actually travel, see the world, and also take methods to places that couldn’t afford to come to California at the time.  My dream was to take the clinics to third-world countries, to those less fortunate individuals.  I’m doing that.  I’ve been to Spain. I wouldn’t class it as a third-world country, but certainly there were underprivileged people.  The horses had been neglected.  Gradually we’re getting out there with a hope to get to Nigeria in February next year.  It’s happening.  That dream is happening.

How do you define “success” for yourself?

When I was younger, I always thought there was one dream to focus in on.  Then I’ve seen this morph.  I think, “Wow, is it just me that has a dream and then goes, ‘I want the dream to change,’ only for me to realize that actually the dream never changed?”  The dream doesn’t change, it progresses. 

I ask myself a lot, “What is success for me?”  On the day-to-day basis, the success is to bring the lost animal home, to allow the animal that looks like it’s time for them to pass to pass with ease or to actually give them longer with their person.  The success is to change behavior, to save the foal from slaughter, to connect the person with the horse, then to allow that person to overcome a fear and to move forward.

For me, when I look at that, that’s not a definition; that’s an explanation.  The success is to make a change every day, ultimately.  I also look at it in another way.  This is the personal piece.  For me the success also is how many people can I touch? How many foals can I save?  How many people can I enlighten that animals are sentient beings?  How many people can I educate that they can all talk to animals through telepathy?  To me, that’s the success.  The success is in the day to day.

So that’s success for my business.  For me personally, success will be learning the balance of everything on a day-to-day basis, from personal to work life, for me, for my family, for my animals.  I feel like there are different pieces of success.

What changes have you made or experienced in your life and business that have enabled you to experience more ease?

There are many.  It is checking in with my heart, which I do a lot.  I do that when it comes down to a clinic choice. In an ideal world, I’d love to make my clinics in gorgeous places. I go to Kauai and Maui to teach.  I have been to Australia and New Zealand and love those exotic places.  In a sense, that fulfills my heart.

When I get the colder locations, I go, “That’s not really me,” but I will check in. I won’t just decline it because I like the tropics. I will take the locations where I know I need to go. If that means Spain—others will go, “Well, Spain is gorgeous.”  I went to an area that wasn’t gorgeous.  It was the desert and it was a very challenging place for the horses.  I didn’t get to see the country.  I tend to fly in, do the stuff I need to do, and then fly out.  

Occasionally I’ll get a day. I’ve really made it with ease that I will get a day.  The first few years, the day never happened.  It would mean that I’d help with another horse or do communications or have business meetings. I really have to enforce the fact that this is the day for me.  Sometimes that works; sometimes it doesn’t.  The animals are more important.  I have tried that extensively, when I go to a new country, to actually have a day for me.   

I check in with my heart and my gut which allows me to make substantial business decisions. That actually helped us to decide to create DVDs.  We realized that it was our own investment.  So I created an account and when I began to sell merchandise, the money went into that account.  That account money never got touched.  We were able to create DVDs on a zero budget.  I was able to pay back the money per DVD to the videographer and editor.  It was an amazing deal I created for myself and I paid them back. 

When I began to make the money, it went into the account.  That’s allowed me to continue to make DVDs.  We are into DVD number eight and they cost $10,000 and upwards to make something that has the quality for television. These can make it on TV and we have seen an investment there.  

When somebody listening to this or reading it might say, “I don’t have the money.”  I didn’t either.  Nobody is going to start poorer than I was.  I started in a deficit and I made it.  I basically said, “You can’t touch that money.  That one will always be reinvested into the education field.”  That’s what I’ve done.  I’ve written books, created podcasts and products.  It always goes back in to continue to make products that will change the world, the way the world sees horses, and to make the life of horses easier.  

How has that made it easier in my life?  Ultimately, it becomes passive income.  Even if there’s a piece we can take off the top or ultimately it will be passive income, it makes life easier.  It makes life easier in so many ways because you can touch people around the world.  The DVD can go to Africa, to Poland, to Russia, to Croatia. We had a little radio show, and the podcasts can reach the far corners of the globe through the computer.  The podcast is free for people who can’t afford a DVD. 

This makes a huge difference in the ease of my life.  If we look at one of my missions and successes, it’s to change one horse at a time, one animal at a time, one life at a time.  I can do that with greater ease by actually creating the platform of media to help me do that.  I could probably tell you the top ten things in my life that have enabled me to experience this ease.  I would say that utilizing the media to reach more people is one of the big ones.

What kind of support do you have for yourself on this journey that you’re on?Personally and professionally, what kind of support do you have?

We can’t do it alone.  You sometimes feel alone.  You sometimes feel overworked and underpaid.  I do believe a lot of us feel that way.  If I look at my journey and look at each piece, then Monty Roberts was the beginning for me on this.  Does it go as far back as Nick, my former husband, saying, “I’m giving you the wings to fly”?  Absolutely.  My parents for not giving me a tough time when I leave?  Monty for opening the door saying, “I believe in you”?  For Crawford Hall for imparting his wisdom and knowledge?  For every trainer that passed my way at Flag Is Up?  I can continue.  People giving me opportunities to basically say, “We trust you with our horses” and for every person that’s hosted me to put this whole thing together. 

And Vin.  Vin has been on this journey with me for the last eight years now and a huge support.  He’s my rock, he really is.  He’s his own rock.  He’s also got his own journey and his own success.  At the same time, he’s seen the power in what we’re doing.  He’s emotionally, mentally exceedingly supportive.  Also behind the scenes and even on the forefront of the scenes, he’s a co-producer with the radio show.  He has been one of the videographers with the DVDs.  He’s my safety net on editing.  He’s got a degree in English.  He edits every article, every book, every DVD.  I do have an amazing partner to be journeying with, somebody who’s spiritual. 

He, too, is a Reiki master.  He’s a medium.  He’s done nutritional health counseling, life coaching.  It’s this piece that you look back and say, “This is the right match for us.”  It’s wonderful to journey with somebody alongside you that says, “Okay, I can see your passion.  I can see that this is an amazing platform to touch the world.  I can journey with you with it and I can help you with it.”  There’s really nobody that doesn’t help in their own way, from fundraising to literally supporting you.

We have added a virtual assistant in the last year.  She does minimal hours but does the social media.  We have a bookkeeper that’s alleviated us from the bookkeeping piece.  

Gradually we’re looking to bring the right people on board that have the belief in the business.  That’s the key, that they believe in it.  It’s a challenge to find somebody that would have the same drive and commitment, but it’s easier to find somebody that believes.  It’s those kinds of people that we’re looking to share the journey with us. 

As a successful Brilliance-Based Businesswoman, what’s the best piece of advice you have for other aspiring and active Brilliance-Based Businesswomen out there?

Checking in with the heart, I love, and I definitely do that daily.  Here’s the thing: when people want to follow their dreams, it’s definitely possible.  Reaching for the stars, I think, is the key, so literally not having any limitation. 

The one piece of advice I really love above all of this is to know what you’re doing.  Educate yourself in that area that you stand out.  The key is so many people now are leaving their workplace.  With the economy as it is, as people are being laid off, some are looking to actually do the career path of their choice.  Some are looking to take that leap of faith while others won’t know what to do with their life.  This is the time of opportunity, it truly is.  It’s the time to do anything you want. 

The key to do anything you want will also be to be the best you can be in that area.  You have to stand out.  You have to know your topic.  You have to know your subject matter.  You have to be dedicated and committed and be the best you can be.  It’s those things that will allow for success on top of following that heart and checking in.  There is a lot of competition out there.  There are a lot of brilliant people.  To stand out, you need to know who you are.  You need to not step out into the world until you really know that you’re good.  You can always learn.  I said that in this interview, that I’m always learning and I’m a sponge and never want to stop growing and learning.  You’re always learning. 

At the same time, when I stepped out as an animal communicator, I was good.  I was really good.  I didn’t step out until I knew that I was accurate, very accurate.  You cannot afford a mistake.  When you’re talking to the animals, you’ve got to be brilliant.  The animals’ lives are in their hands, helping them to come home if they’re lost.  If they’re passing over and you’re talking to an animal on the other side, you need a degree of proof.  You have to know that the information, the advice and the messages you’re sharing are real and true.  That means you need to know that you’re brilliant, that you’re very good at what you’re doing. 

My advice really is to know who you are and move forward in your power to the point where you know what you’re sharing is accurate, is worth it, is worth the money, worth the time and will literally make a difference in somebody’s world.

What’s the best way for others to learn more about what you do?

We have the website: www.reachouttohorses.com.  From the website, you can go to the blog and Facebook. The website has articles on horsemanship and animal communication and energy healing.  We also have over 120 YouTube videos available for people to watch.  We have the podcast, which is the radio show with different guests in all of those worlds.  Those are the free resources that are available.  You can also see the programs for 2012 under the events calendar.